Thu, 28 November 2019
I’m Jackie Ulmer and Welcome to the Street Smart Wealth Experience, show # 346, and Happy Thanksgiving!
You’ll find the show notes at - 346.StreetSmartWealth.me
It’s thanksgiving here in the US, and I wanted to be in your ears today! and while that may not apply where you are, every day is a day for thanksgiving, and gratitude and let me start by saying how grateful I am that you are here, and listening in now! I appreciate you.
Thanksgiving, as an acronym and how it applies to our lives and business. Thoughts, feelings and emotions that are important to our personal and professional success.
So, first we have -
T - Time - Time is our most precious commodity. WE can’t get more. We all have the same 24 hours. How will you spend it? Prioritize it? Cherish it? Who will you give it to? And, how to stop stressing over not enough time and realize that you have all of the time you need, when you master productivity and prioritizing.
H - Heart - and Happiness. Lead with your heart, always, in life and business. Give without thoughts of getting back. You will, always. Know that happiness is a choice, and life is 50/50. People will FEEL your authenticity through your essence of being when you are heart centered.
A - Attitude - attitude is truly everything. Every day, you CHOOSE the type of day you will have by what you expect; what you put your focus on, and how you react to things that go on around you. Here are some things you can do to control your own attitude.
First, spend the first few moments of each new day preparing for it mentally. Do a morning mediation, say your morning prayers, or develop some pattern that you use to start out the day feeling uplifted and with an expectation of how the day will flow.
Do a thought download daily, just asking intuitively what you need to know and focus on for the day. And, perhaps what is a limiting belief that is at the surface to be released.
A daily practice on your thoughts will create a whole new you in not too terribly long.
Check in at regular intervals and make sure you are flowing with positive thoughts and check on how you are acting or reacting to events through out the day.
A Positive attitude will help you cope more easily with day to day life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worry and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it will bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing and strengthening.
Positive attitude manifests in the following ways:
Motivation to accomplish your goals.
Not giving up.
Looking at failure and problems as blessings in disguise.
Believing in yourself and in your abilities.
Displaying self-esteem and confidence.
Looking for solutions.
Attracting abundance to you.
A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but also your whole environment and the people around you. If it is strong enough, it becomes contagious.
N - Now - everything that truly happens takes place in the present. The NOW. Too often, we continue to live with the last tugging at is; hanging on and continuing to keep us stuck; feeling out of control.
Do several NOW centering practices each day. Stop, breath in deeply. Get quiet. Close your eyes. Ask - what is REAL right now. How do I feel? Am I saw? What is great right now? What am I worried about? Is that worry REAL right now? IS it from my past or something I am projecting into thee future?
Now is ALL we truly have. Live in NOW as much as possible.
K - Knowledge - be a lifelong learner. Never think you know it all. Never think you know everything there is to know on any subject. What skills will you learn to move you forward in your business? In your life? What steps can you take daily to increase your knowledge and your skills?
S - Skills - You just need to develop the skillz to pay the billz in your business and it is just that - skill development. It can be learned and perfected and anyone can do it if he/she commits. Most of us come from an employee mentality so we are not really up to speed about what a lot of that means.
As an entrepreneur, there are a few skills to master - know what you are selling; the solution you provide and how to communicate that clearly, with ease, and in a way that gets your tribe to lean in. You must know how to ask good questions; answer objections before they are even asked; know the natural sales process of what you offer and how to navigate your prospect through it; and how to ask for and close the sale.
Again, all learnable skills.
G - Generosity - we are paid based on the value we deliver…or give. We also attract love, relationships and friendships through our generosity. Have a giving nature and
know that you will always be reciprocated by the universe. It’s a natural law.
Brainstorm ways you can be generous. This is not just giving money. Time, compliments, sharing knowledge, making introductions - these are all great examples of generosity.
I - Imaginative - a strong imagination, combined with your intentional thoughts and feelings will create anything in the world for you. Everything in the world EVER was first created in the mind. Someone’s. The smartphone you are listening through or the computer. It didn’t just happen. When you engage your imagination, you can create powerful things.
Start each day with a 10 idea download. In addition to your thought download, write down 10 ideas each day. They don’t have to be different each day - just the 10 that come to mind. Watch for patterns to emerge and pay attention. That’s your intuition and higher consciousness talking! Creativity is based on self belief. That’s why when we are drowning in negativity keeps us from creating powerfully.
V - Vision - It’s everything. You have one even if it’s not intentional. You are currently living your vision. If you don’t like it or want to change it, create a new vision and master your thinking around it.
I - Integrity - A great definition of integrity is doing the right thing even when nobody is looking. It’s about staying true to your word, to others and yourself. It’s backing up and doing what you say you will do. It’s underpromising and overdelivering. It’s values, truth and authenticity.
The golden rule is the best - do onto others as you would have others do onto you.
N - Neutral - a fabulous state of being. Understanding what it means to stay neutral. To be neutral on circumstances, and thoughts. Even feelings, you get to decide how triggered you will allow these things to make you.
Neutrality leads us to acceptance and that is powerful. Neutrality doesn’t cause pain. We choose when to move from neutral. We do this through our thoughts.
If I could give you a gift for Thanksgiving it would be to begin to focus on things as neutral, and then make a conscious decision about how you want to think and feel around them.
Then, learn to question your own thoughts and whether or not they are serving you.
A good way to get to neutral is to breathe. Slowly, calmly and allow emotion to leave your body.
These are things we can’t control so they are neutral when they happen.
A tornado in Oklahoma is sad, but neutral to most if they don’t know anyone or have anything result from it personally.
"Circumstances are reality, and when you argue with reality, you lose 100% of the time.” Byron Katie.
Eckhart Tolle tells us that the only power we have is in this present moment. When we are spending our present moment in a fight we can't win by arguing with reality, we're always losing in our present moment. That being said, there is a huge difference between accepting and condoning. Accepting the way things are, does not mean we agree with them or condone them. It just means we're not trying to change something by pushing hard against it. We are choosing not to go to war.
Practice seeing things as neutral and see how it settles with you. And, pay attention to your thoughts.
Finally, we have
G - Gratitude - “If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.” – Meister Eckhart
As I mentioned earlier, under attitude, starting your day with gratitude and appreciation can really set you up for a tremendous day. Just sit, lie, kneel and take a few moment to close your eyes and run through your mind all of the things you are grateful for in two minutes.
This is powerful because it
So, as we embrace the Thanksgiving week here in the US, please know I am grateful for you, and I am thanking you right now, for being here and being part of this amazing journey with me.
I hope this has been helpful and you’ve found some thanksgiving nuggets for your life.
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Direct download: SSW346-ThanksgivingForLifeAndBusiness.mp3
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Mon, 25 November 2019
You’re listening to the Street Smart Wealth Experience, show #345 and today, we are going to change the way you look at and DO Goal Setting..
Show notes 345.streetsmartwealth.me
If you’ve been with me awhile - THANK YOU!! I’ve been on a bit of a recording hiatus as I have been working on several new projects; I’ve been speaking locally and building a large client base here in the Phoenix/Scottsdale area.
It’s a dream come true, marketing both online and offline, and watching the two overlap. I’ve created a new video series available to you with worksheets to walk through some of the primary challenges more and more people are experiencing these days -
Other People’s Opinions
Not Feeling Good enough or like we measure up
Access those at ConfidenceDecoded.com
I would love to hear your thoughts.
These are the worksheets and processes that I used to grow myself and then grow my business. It worked for me and I know it will for you, too, if you do the work.
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Go to StreetSmartWealth.me now and get added so you get the nuggets.
It’s that time of year - about to close out one year and on to a new one.
An exciting one - 20/20 - how do you feel about that? Does it feel different.
It does for me. I’m energized by it. I’ve been journaling about it for a long time. Doing my daily thought downloads and planning your the year in my 5 F areas -
Faith Family/Friends Fun Fitness Finances
It’s amazing what being intentional and consistent can create for you.
I started a fitness challenge that I put together with my daughter and it really whipped my butt into shape.
You’ve likely heard my 10,000 steps journey story and how it has changed my life.
This was more than about setting a goal. It was about a committed intention.
Do you set goals? Do you get goals?
Are your eyes glazed over, thinking about Goal Setting? You may be thinking “I have already learned this SO MANY TIMES.
What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
Goal Setting From a Place of Abundance
Your First Thoughts Around Your Goals
What to Watch Out For
Goal Setting From a Place of Abundance
I don’t know about you, but my goal on this earth is to be the best version of myself that I can be. To show up in the best way for myself and all who are around me.
With this thought always squarely in my mind and front and center, it makes it so much easier to direct my thoughts.
Try it - when you think about the “Best version of you”, how do you feel? Write those feelings down so you can always come back to them.
Put them on a note on your phone. Seriously get into the practice of being with these more positive feelings on a regular basis.
When I approach goal setting, I start by directing my brain specifically. And, I get into a good thinking and feeling place.
Give your brain a direction and a focus to follow. If you don’t harness your brain and your thoughts, you aren’t likely to get what you desire. Structure and supervision is critical to success.
You can predict where you will be in your life when you pay attention to what you are telling your brain. What have you told it so far?
What results do you desire in your life?
When was the last time you dreamed. Not in your sleep, but in your waking hours? Are you spending most of your time reacting and putting out fires?
We have become hard wired to think of goals and wants from a place of scarcity; of lack; in a painful way.
We’ve become afraid to dream because it feels hurtful and sad. And, getting into this place is exactly what we need to do and where we need to go so we can break through those obstacles.
We will only break through our limiting beliefs by first facing them.
Then, we can move to a place of goal setting from a place of abundance.
Your First Thoughts Around Your Goals
Typically, we think about everything that we WANT but don’t have when we start goal setting. Those are our first thoughts.
Listen to my show from Thanksgiving 326a.StreetSmartWealth.me
Now, I want you to start the goal setting process by thinking of everything you now have that you REALLY, TRULY want and love. Not exactly from a place of gratitude, but from a true, goal setting want.
I’ll share a few of mine.
“I REALLY want an amazing marriage to the man of my dreams. I REALLY want two high functioning children who are doing good work in the world. I REALLY want a calm, beautiful space to work and live. I REALLY want to be in nature regularly. I really want to be taking care of my body and health.”
I have all of these things now. And, I expect them; work to have them; appreciate and am grateful for them.
When you are feeling caught in the struggle, it can be hard to see all the things we appreciate.
You may be thinking initially, “All I do is work and strive and try and never quite get there.”
Maybe you don’t like aspects of your life. I get that. All of us can find some good in everything though, when we refocus how we look at things.
Stop for a minute and get fully centered in the present of where you are now. Listen to your thoughts, feel the feelings and while staying connected, do a pattern interrupt to stop that flow.
Clap your hands. Do a quick dance. Snap a rubber band on your wrist.
Stay connected but shift the thought AFTER you own it, feel it and then decide and direct your brain to move on from it.
There are no thoughts from your past that have to equal your future or change where it is you truly want to go, YOU and you alone get to choose.
What is the next experience you want in your life? Not necessarily an income goal but let’s say an experience. Travel, or something.
Don’t worry about the how.
Here’s my example -
In September, 2021, my husband and I are going on a first class river cruise in Europe. We will fly first class on American Airlines (paid, and confirmed, not free); we will have a balcony suite; and add extra time before and after the trip.
The more specific the better. Get detailed. Have FUN! Let yourself go wild!
What to Watch Out For
Guess what happens next? Yep, your brain and thoughts might try to derail you.
Negative emotions settles in - fear, doubt, self judgement….
You are going to want to find the how. That’s when your brain will begin to block you. Forget it for now. It will show up - the how. The why and the thrill of it are the most important to get your thoughts and feelings going, to move you into action and results.
“I don’t know” is a dangerous place to be. A major dream stealer so don’t go there.
Your brain always looks for what you tell it to look for, so if you are really stretching it, it’s going to immediately say - “Uh, we have not had this before so I don’t think so….”
I want you to just accept that feeling, that negative emotion and then grab back that feeling of abundance and just tell your brain - “I know, and here is the really cool thing - we are going to create a new experience and change the direction of our life.”
When you get that feeling that says - I don’t know. Maybe I can’t do this.
Now is when you get out your journal and do a download of all of these thoughts. All of the negative energy.
Then, take your mind to a future place; where you have accomplished this goal. Write it out. Read it. Feel it.
Let go of any negative that comes up in a lighthearted way. Laugh, giggle and say - oh just you wait!
It’s a lot with that like that quote, “What would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail? If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you do?”
Think about this for a minute.
Go to the future place where it’s already done. See yourself there. Don’t see yourself where you are now.
See and meet your mind from a place of knowing. That is powerful. Then, from that place, you write your action plan. That’s the how.
When I decided to be successful in NWM, I didn’t know how. I had not done it.
Nor built online
started a podcast
built a site and blog
What I did know is that I could follow instructions; a path; someone to lead the way.
I didn’t know how to make my first million dollars, exactly. I knew it had been done, though. So, I actually DID know. I knew if I followed someone else’s lead I could do it too.
And so can you.
It’s so very important to break goals down into small steps. If you have a year-long goal, you need to break it down by month. Then week and then day.
The more detail you can give yourself about your action plan for your goal, the better.
What are you willing to do to achieve and master your goals? Learning, trying testing and more?
As we remove obstacles and limiting beliefs, we grow in our ability to create more of what we want.
We don’t have to believe any negatived thoughts. You can acknowledge it as a thought, and then choose to change that thought.
Remember, we are giving our brain a direction and a focus. Thoughts create feelings, which drive our actions and our results.
We are going to have results, no matter what. No matter how we direct our brain, so why not CHOOSE the way you want it to go.
It’s time to step out of the comfort zone and get to where you want to be!
20/20 is coming
NOW, is your time.
Get my new video training series for sure -
Listen, watch, study, learn and apply. You will change your thoughts, results and life through this process. It’s worked for everyone who has ever truly committed to it.
Show notes - 345.StreetSmartWealth.me
Thanks for your time. I know how precious it is. See you on the next show.
Direct download: SSW345-GoalsSettingInANewWay.mp3
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