Peak Performance Habits - Jackie Ulmer
QA017 Afraid to Talk to Family and Friends About Network Marketing


Hey, it’s Jackie Ulmer and welcome this Q and A edition of the Street Smart Wealth, Profit in Your PJs Podcast, where I answer your burning questions and get you on your way to the Network Marketing Hall of Fame. 


This is show QA017 Today’s question comes from Bandith in Cambodia, and it’s an email question - I’m afraid to talk to family and friends about my business.




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Today’s question is….


Asked by Bandith in Cambodia, and it’s an email question - I’m afraid to talk to family and friends about my business. This just goes to show that this is another universal fear many people have in Network Marketing. As someone from the US, it amuses me that all around the globe, we have these challenges.




The first question to ask oneself to find the answer is - WHY!


Why are you afraid of talking to family and friends?


It usually comes down to belief, or rather lack of it.



So, ask yourself -


Do I believe in Network Marketing and that it works. Maybe it hasn’t worked for you, but certainly that it has for others. Write down 10 people who you know of who have created success in Network Marketing; who have what it is you want.


So, again, ask yourself - does network marketing work? The answer has to be Yes, right?


Next, ask yourself, do I believe in my company and products? I’m guessing the answer is yes, otherwise, why would you have joined?


The third question and often the deal breaker - do I believe in myself, and my ability to be successful?


Think long and hard about this.


If you found out about a gold mine near your house, and you went and checked it out, and you found that you could just load up as much gold as you wanted, who would you bring back with you the second time you went?



Would you go out and talk to strangers and tell them? No, you would call those people closest to you and let them know.


Begin to view your network marketing business in the same way.


Get yourself out of the equation. Remember that you aren’t asking for a favor, you are offering an opportunity. What they chose to do with it is up to them.


It’s not about you, It’s not a reflection on you, or your company, or network marketing, or your decision to use this powerful vehicle to take you where you want to go, if they say no!


When people say to me - I don't want to bug my friends and family. My response is very simple - Oh, that’s good. I don't want you to bug anyone either. That is not what I do. I share what I am doing and leave it to them to see if it’s a fit. And, I pick their brains to see if they know of anyone this might be a great fit for.


I find what people have a need of and I try to help them fill that need.


When people say - I can’t ask my family? I ask - Why not? Then listen. So you are going to be the judge and jury for them, making the decision for them? I’ve learned that people’s interest and situations change all of the time, and so does their interest in a side business and extra income. Our goal isn’t to bug or harass them, but rather notify them and then leave it up to them.


What have you done to burn out your warm market so badly? How can you make amends?



Finally, stop worrying and caring so much what other people think of you. They really aren’t thinking about you as much as you think. As Mark Yarnell says - 



When people put their head down on their pillow at night, they’re only thinking of numero uno and it ain’t you.  You may be the subject at a church function or a cocktail party ‘cause they don’t have anything better to talk about.  “Did you hear about Yarnell?  He’s in one of those pyramids.”  But the truth is, they don’t really care about you.

So, use good success language to invite, use third party tools to present, and give people an out. This probably isn’t for you, but I thought you should decide for yourself.


Be a proud Network Marketing professional!


Good luck out there!



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Until next time - remember this - Hesitation Never Cashed a Check!



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